The World Has Gone Haywire!
Checking in...
Sometimes we forget that mental health illnesses are real. Depression is real. Suicide is real. But so also is love.
Always check up on the people around you. Be intentional!
The world has gone erratic and is continually spiralling with lots of things going on in people’s lives. This has caused stress levels to increase, as a result, there has been an increase in mental health issues all around us.
It is possible to cushion the impact of and reduce the stress levels on ourselves and our loved ones. An easy way to achieve that is to be intentional about checking in on the people around us.
As simple and easy as this is, it can be the reason why someone is hopeful again. It can be the reason why someone feels the need to hold on and try again. Parents think they need to work hard to pay school fees, so they spend their whole life out there. The husband also thinks he needs to do all he can to provide for his wife. the suitor thinks he needs to impress his woman and on and on like that.
But the primary thing people need from people is presence. It is the substance of time and relationships with people. It is what actually matters - being present with people. That’s the substance of love and connections.
Be intentional about being present with people.
Simple Ways to Intentionally check on Those Around You.
• When you check on those around you, don't just ask "how are you?" and leave it there. You're gonna get a "fine". And that's it, whereas they are not fine and are going through a lot!
• A great way to start is to reflect back and follow up on previous conversations. For example, "How did you resolve your rent issue last time?"
• Also, ask about specific domains. For example, "How is your school project going?" "What was the result of your test at the hospital?" or "how is your relationship with sapa?"
• In addition, reflect back on their emotions or gestures. For example, "I can see you look worried." "Can you tell me about it?" If you are not sure of how they are feeling, you can say, "I see you're having a feeling." "Do you want to talk about it?"
• Furthermore, you can ask how you can support them or what you can do for them, that will be helpful.
• Active listening is also key. Learn to listen to people to understand and, not to reply to them. As you listen, do not interrupt. Allow them to pour out their hearts before you respond.
• Generally, ask open-ended questions (i.e., questions that wouldn't end in "yes" or "no"). For example, instead of saying "is it painful?", say "how does it feel...".
Friends, the world has gone haywire! People don't need more drama in their lives. Like I always say:
If you can't be part of the healing process, at least do not interfere with it.
Be supportive. Spread love and light!
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Great advice!
Pretty sure